In Search of the Perfect and Compatible Relationship

 

Have you heard the phrase, “No one is perfect?”

If no one is perfect and you know you’re not perfect, how can you expect someone else to be? Yet, you’re still looking for the perfect companion.

It doesn’t make sense, especially when you read news articles about how compatible a couple is based on analyses made by professional astrologists, numerologists, Bazi, and Feng Shui practitioners—and then, after some years, you read that the same couple has divorced.

Does this imply all these professionals and practitioners are adopting “fake imposters” mentality where their analysis were fakes, or anything except for the truth?

 

ONLY ONE PART, NOT THE SUM OF ALL PARTS…

These professionals and practitioners are genuine, and their analyses are accurate based on their perspective and the evidence they have gathered. It’s similar to someone insisting that a person with the 2-7-9 (7-2-9) pattern in their Birth Chart is a confirmed flirt or will eventually be involved in transgressions or extramarital affairs.

They are not wrong, nor are they completely right. Their conclusions were drawn from a single perspective, with a siloed mindset and the limiting belief that people don’t change, and that the numbers in their Birth Chart will dictate their lives forever.

An analogy here: Imagine you’ve bought a new house, renovated and decorated it, and many years later, everything – the furniture, wall colours, and arrangement – remains in pristine condition just as it was the day you moved in. Illogical assumption, right?

Furthermore, their analysis doesn’t account for any additional family members, like kids, living in the house, which would undoubtedly influence and impact the parents’ hierarchy of needs.

 

LOGICAL REASONING…

People change. Besides your outward appearance, your attitude, knowledge, and skills have evolved. You’ve discarded some bad habits, recognising the transformation within yourself.

Even a person with 2-7-9 (or 7-2-9) in their Birth Chart can become a better individual by effectively managing emotions and desires, focusing on what truly matters to their values and purpose, and not engaging in transgressions as many external trainers have speculated.

That person could be you, a friend, a police officer, or even a monk or nun.

 

INTRINSIC AND EXTRINSIC MOTIVATIONS AND NEEDS…

Each of us, myself included, has intrinsic and extrinsic needs and motivations. If you’re familiar with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs model, you’ll understand that your needs – Physiological, Safety and Security, Love and Belonging, Self-Esteem, Self-Actualisation – change over time.

This implies that a loving husband and wife, a compatible couple, or people in a BFF relationship can suddenly become incompatible because their needs have changed.

From an Elements of Numbers (EON) perspective, it’s impossible to know exactly what the root-cause triggers are for every chart analysed due to the complexities of human behaviours. However, you can check the tendency signs that trigger these behaviours from the periodic charts. These include the Personal Year, Personal Month, Personal Day, and the 9-Year Cycle Charts.

So, with all these periodic influences affecting people in both good and bad ways, does this mean that people whose Birth Chart does not have the 2-7-9 (7-2-9) can get into extramarital affairs?

Sure, why not?

When triggers arise and the person doesn’t take charge of managing their emotions and feelings, anything can happen. This means that when the 2-7-9 (7-2-9) pattern appears in the periodic charts, it could manifest the essence of their thoughts, desires, and behaviours.

Oh no… but yes, the manifestation of 2-7-9 (7-2-9) can happen at any time, day, month, or year.

Oh, before I forget, there are other signs besides extramarital affairs, sensuous, and flirtatious behaviours in the 2-7-9 (7-2-9) patterns. So don’t be too fixated on the fear of transgression; there are many other effects and traits that are actually positive too.

 

REFRAMING YOUR MINDSET…

Many people want change but resist being changed, which can derail the speed of personal transformation. Instead, they choose shortcuts and life hacks promoted by others, buying expensive plaques or jewellery with four-digit numbers marketed as a magical “LifeCode” that supposedly does positive wonders forever.

Practising mindfulness and meditations could bring more benefits than these commercialised products.

If you’ve read my articles on LifeCode ornaments, you’ll know that prolonged use could manifest energies potentially detrimental to your health.

 

If you’re a sensible and rational person, which I know you are, there’s only one approach to take: REFRAME. Change your perspective and shift your mindset.

With a mindset shift and making it into a new habit through continuous practises, you can be on your way towards transformative change to become a better self.

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE…

In summary, building and strengthening your Emotional Intelligence can improve your relational communication with others. Learn to manage your emotions, feelings, thoughts, behaviours, and responses, and you’ll find that compatibility is an outcome of interactions between you and others.

It’s about having the right mindset and attitude toward achieving common goals, values, and purpose over time. In the practice of Transactional Analysis, it’s about engaging in an adult-to-adult ego state.

Learn the Elements of Numbers (EON) to better understand yourself and others.

Make full use of your critical thinking, observations, curiosity, values, and visions to reframe your mindset and take small, consistent steps toward a happier progression.

Regards, Ron WZ Sun