The Little Boss

As parents, you have many options to choose how you want to nurture your children. You can groom them from young and lead them to be what you want them to be. You can walk beside them and guide them to be who they’re meant to be. Alternatively, you can have a “heck care” attitude and let them be on their own, and to let them become what they want to be.

There are many approaches to character building. And they could be interchangeable, confusing, frustrating, and contradicting at times, depending on the approach you use and which perspective you are looking at. It can be good; it can be average, and it can be bad – no one knows for sure until the ‘test result’ is out. Eventually, you might be happy because the test report is positive and perfect. Conversely, you might have dreaded and resented why you’ve not done enough earlier, when the test report showed negative results, and you blamed yourself for not guiding the person to have good, ethical character.

I find it unnecessary to profile the birth chart of newborn baby. They are just too young, especially if they are born a few days ago, or they’re less than a few months’ old, for us to determine their character. A crying baby doesn’t necessary imply he or she would likely be a softie or weak (at heart). A smiling baby doesn’t imply he or she could have a joyful life, with full of sweetness and laughter. And a quiet baby doesn’t imply being an introvert or your persistent fear that “something is wrong” with the baby. No one truly knows for sure what happened when a newborn baby is crying. He or she could be hungry, seek attention, scared, or the crying was due to a health issue.

While my profiling might be informative, who or what the baby eventually becomes when they reached adulthood is beyond my control since their behaviours, traits, and habits are depended on “by example, shall we lead” principles, including family upbringing, shared values, environment, and moral guidance.

I received a personal request from Raymond a few days ago, asking if I could profile his grandson who was born early this week. Raymond is now a happy Grandfather and wants to know his grandson’s personalities. I reluctantly replied, “Will do a short write up as I don’t want to set wrong expectations and mindset, especially when your grandson is just a few days’ old.” Since I’m profiling a baby’s chart, I will stick to the basic life aspects, putting the career and other adult-like actions aside. For easier identification, I’ll reference Raymond’s grandson as BabyBoy. There are no hard-and-fast rules on when would be the right age to profile a person. As long as the baby can learn by examples from their parents, and understand what it means by “no,” they should be at the suitable time or age to start his or her life lessons.

Let’s check the period when BabyBoy is around 7-16 years old, that’s the time when schooling and academic education matters. From extended EON (Elements of Numbers) principles, BabyBoy has both sides of the smart genes – the book-smart and Street-smart. This means BabyBoy is a “follow-by-the-book” person and yet because of his “Street-smart” abilities, his parents could guide him to apply the “study smart” approach rather than the “study hard” way. That is to say, if BabyBoy feels what’s stated throughout the book is not entirely correct, he might be compelled to widen his knowledge by seeking the answers from official information elsewhere, like from authorised or government sites. With the abilities to utilise his smart genes, this could also imply BabyBoy is not an easy, “YES” person. His Teachers might have a hard time trying to convince him that what the book stated is the only correct answer. He might frequently adopt the 4W1H (Why, Where, What, When, and How) thinking mindset, out of curiosity and not to spite his Teachers.

Whatever it is, his guardians (like parents and paternal/maternal grandparents) must not “spoil” him by spoon-feeding and pampering him, and subconsciously empowering him to be their “little boss.” While they could inculcate the book-reading habits (focused, linear reading), they should also allow him to become self-reliant by searching for relevant information (dynamic, mind-mapping-like reading) on the Internet.

I could visualised Raymond’s smiling and at-ease thoughts at this juncture. Wait a minute… I haven’t touched on the not-so-good tendency signs yet. From the elements and numbers present in BabyBoy’s chart, there are signs of “selective-listening” habits. This means if his guardians must “lead by examples” and be role-models – to inculcate the habit of listening attentively to what others have to say and not merely always interrupt the conversation because you think you are right, or have no time as you have more important things to do, or simply does not want to listen to their vieee.

There are signs BabyBoy’s dad might be the difficult one to appease than his mom. Conversely, it might also suggest his dad is the straight, law-abiding, challenging, and principled person. I might be wrong here, but the 3-4 in I-J location of BabyBoy’s birth chart could imply a [Fast-Plan] approach, no thanks to the “no need to plan on your own, just follow mine” approach adopted by the dad. On the other hand, there are signs his mom is more of the sensitive, easily agitated but responsible kind of person. The 7-1-8 is the compound result of his family upbringing. On the right track, it could be about [Resourcefulness – Leader – Responsibility] which imply BabyBoy could be a resourceful person, tapping on his networking of supporters to become a responsible leader.

In many ways, he could utilise his smart genes to full capacity. On an ideal scenario, he could be a successful person who’s prudent in financial matters and shrewd in wealth creations. On the wrong track, it could lead to [Relying on Others – Lead – Crazy Busy] which could imply a reactive person who could excel or lead only when being pushed, and thereafter, feeling stressful because he acted like a leader-who-follows and not a leader-who-leads. In many ways, his smart gene is under-utilised because the laziness attitude has been formed, as decisions have already been made by someone else, and he simply followed through them. On the worst scenario, he could become the money-chaser or power-hungry, manipulative and charismatic person.

There are signs BabyBoy might have digestive-related symptoms. He might have thrown out the milk, depending on the milk brand, during feeding time as it might be too “heaty.” From my experience, not all milk brands are suitable for every baby. This is due to the baby’s genetic health symptoms when born. BabyBoy’s parents might want to consider changing the brand of milk, if he’s currently showing such behaviours, like throwing out the milk. There are signs BabyBoy might have sweet tooth – the likelihood of hereditary “diabetic” tendencies. It’s important for BabyBoy’s parents to moderate his sugary food intake, and inculcate healthy food consumption.

As parents, we all love our children and tend to pamper them. Because of the Yin-Yang effect, BabyBoy’s mom (and Grandmother) is likely to be closer to him than his dad.

To groom BabyBoy to be who his parents want him to be; guide him to walk his own path; alternatively, simply leaving up to Fate to decide BabyBoy’s destiny, is depending on his parents and grandparents’ actions. The choice is for them to make, or for BabyBoy to decide what his life’s purpose would be when he’s older.

Regards, Ron WZ Sun