Relationship Analysis: Does John Like Me?
I got an email from Irene recently. She wrote, “My friend likes this guy. She’s thinking of how to win his affection. I’m trying to figure out their love compatibility, and wondered if the guy would reciprocate his love to her. They’ve been friends for around eight months now.”
Relationships and compatibilities have separate bonding and meanings between different people. When I analyse two charts for relationships, I’d usually put the love aspects aside since the relationship is simply about the communication and attraction between two (or more) parties. The relationships could be two people being business partners, contemplating on potential partnership, two platonic friends, teacher-student relationship; or merely about knowing if two people can click together with common goals. On the other hand, compatibility is often an overused word as there are different elements to be considered before we can decide if two people are compatible. We first need to determine what is the compatibility about before starting to analyse the charts. Is it about love, similar food taste or dressing style, like-minded thinking or mindset, same hobbies or music genre, and so on?
When analysing a relationship or a compatibility chart between two or more people, we should constantly put the influencing vibes between them in a short-termed perspective, and understanding that people’s attitude and behaviours do change when disruptive events like job retrenchment, birth of baby, salary cuts, death of loved ones, economic or financial crisis and others, happened some years later. From extended EON (Elements of Numbers) method, we should also factor the Personal Year Charts as well as the 9-Year Luck Cycle Pillars (9YLCP) to determine the influencing or imposing vibes that might affect the two people individually, or both when they’re together.
In Irene’s case, her friend (let’s name her as Jane) likes this guy (let’s call him as John), and wondered if he is also interested in her. The keyword that Irene stated, is about “love,” and that helps clear the guessing part about the compatibility.
Let’s start with John’s Birth Chart. His chart reminded me of some articles I’ve posted in the past, where the chart has too many Wood elements (numbers 4 or 9). The tendency signs are suggesting a person with insecurities, wavering-like mood swings, emotional, and with inconsistent ideas. One day, they’re like the morning glory flowers – presentable or charismatic impression at first, but as the hours or day passed, but you don’t get to see their appealing outlooks. And on another day, they could be like the sunflowers, showcasing or flaunting their strengths throughout the daytime. In a way, understanding John’s true intent is equally good as playing a 1-and-0 binary game – you thought you knew him well, at one moment; and yet you feel you still don’t know him enough, at another moment.
John is also a perfectionist, and invariably has many plans in mind, as he works on the “perfect plan.” That created sudden outburst when things don’t happen the way he envisioned. John’s Birth Chart portrayed an analogy of a person acting like creepers or weeds surrounding the tree. In layman words, he is dependable on others, probably for clues, advice, or guidance before making conclusions. He could be very creative and passionate too, but more oftentimes than not, he doesn’t know when to stop whenever he’s pursuing a task. He’s like a crazy-busy and stressful person who doesn’t truly know what work-life balance lifestyle is entirely about. At extreme cases, it could raise the mental depression, bipolar disorder, high anxiety and other cognitive, respiratory, or mental health symptoms. Eventually, such behaviours and fickle-minded attitudes could, unknowingly, create frictions and communication drift with his colleagues or friends. And that could also affect his mental health and holistic wellbeing.
Let’s look at Jane’s Birth chart. There are tendency signs suggesting she’s more of an independent person who has high intellectual, leadership, egoistic and prideful traits. She could be driven by materialistic achievement, intellectual and thought-provoking ideas, and logical thinking. She can sustain or continue growing her wealth when her positive strengths are reinforced. However, when she over-exerted her strengths, it could lead to mental-related symptoms like those I’ve mentioned about John’s health earlier.
In the Five Elements principles, strong Wood could affect Metal elements; and strong Metal could affect the Wood element also. This implies; John’s Root 4 (Wood) is often in-action with Jane’s Root 6 (Metal). From one perspective, the interactions of John’s Wood 4 and Jane’s Metal 6 could be considered as complementary, since they could rely on each other to control or adjust their strong vibes. But where is the love that ties them together?
In Five Elements, the mediator between Wood and Metal, is Water (numbers 2 and 7). Considerably, in basic EON theory, we could associate numbers 2 and 7 as communicative vibes, and that’re present in both John’s and Jane’s charts. We could also associate the number 6 as family, home, and love; and that’s present in both charts, although the loving or homely 6 is an innate part of Jane’s conscious trait. Could that be a reason why Jane likes John, but is unsure if he likes her? Could the 6-6 pattern in John’s chart imply an external influence of an unhappy family when he was young? And could these somehow forged a mental block and limited belief in him, to withhold his love to others, for fear of history (unhappy family) repeating?
Let’s look at their Relationship / Compatibility Chart. The 9-1-1-2-1-3 pattern is like [Shared Vision – Independent – interdependent – Communicate – Lead – Passion]. Conversely, could it be about [Success- Alone – Alone – Talk – Alone – Fast]. We could read the second association to a one-way kind of relationship, where Jane often talks about intellectual things, and John is talking about his visions and plans. It’s like the left brain (logical thinking) and right brain (Creative thinking) are constantly in debating motion, and both could have felt the loneliness – after a while – even though they are together. On the other extreme end, Jane could utilise her knowledge and intellect of John (after reading this article) to focus on the first association. That is to say, to create a shared vision, requiring both to cultivate on their assigned roles and coming together to discuss what they want, and act on it to make things happen. This means, Jane can apply the Transactional Analysis (TA) principle by communicating to John in an Adult-Adult ego state, to enable smooth two-way communication to flows through. She could also guide him on making his plans complete, as long as it’s within her abilities and moral ethics.
Aside from the sexual attraction (yes, it’s present too), pride, shared visions, passions, joy, and laughter felt between them, it’s up to Jane to do her part to get to know John better. Of course, as the popular phrase goes, “it takes two hands to clap.” Even so, when one hand is waiting for the other hand to initiate the clap, it becomes a “wait and sees” outcome. Gone are the days when it’s expected that man must make the first move. C’mon, we’re at present living in the 21st century where equal rights is common these days. Since Jane is interested in John, she could begin taking subtle action to help John feel comfortable – being with her – and unleash his fears, worries, and anxieties to her. Even if John doesn’t reciprocate her love for him for now, Jane can always care for John as a platonic friend.
That’s a brief analysis on the “love” part of the relationship between John and Jane. There are many other areas we can look for to ‘dig out’ more clues like plotting the EFV Birth Code and EFV Annual Code to determine the behavioural inclinations of them, know the contributing factors, and perhaps, to apply the earlier-mentioned TA ego state for a happier relationship. They both need to manage the emotional, mental, temperamental mood swings. Eventually, whether Jane and John become a loving and happy couple, is entirely up to them to decide and do. Profiling their charts, is like referring to a knowledge-book consisting of descriptions of known personality types and traits, and the general outcomes that might arise under normal circumstances.
At times, getting out of the flow could speed up things, for good or for worst. However, until they try, they won’t know how close the relationship with each other might be. They could act together with a common goal, get out of the norm, and make things happened. That’s where dreams might become a reality, and positive vibes manifested just the way they desire.
Regards, Ron WZ Sun