Using EON: Checking Suitable Occupation for Children

I received an email from Natalie recently, where she was concerned about her son’s future, as any parent would be. The following is an edited excerpt from our discussions:

Nathalie: I read your case study of Rebecca when I was checking human profiling. I want to know what occupation is appropriate for my son.

Ron: I would not recommend deciding the occupation of your son, especially when he is still young. As parents, we should not make career choices based on our preference. Millennial nowadays are less true to their jobs and tend to change jobs more often than their parents.

You need to “learn” to put less stress and pressure on your child, based on his Birth Chart. Both you and your husband need to spend more time with him. Giving him money (especially your husband) is not the way to motivate him to study for his exams later in the year.

Natalie: I really appreciate your valuable advice; I’ll follow them. Basically, he put pressure on himself. For us as parents, we are happy as long as he passes.

Family upbringing and formative years for children are important. Parents from different cultures, races, and countries have different parenting styles.

In general, many people born during the baby boomers (1946-64) and Generation X (1965-80) are more disciplined and tend to adhere to their parents’ preferred list of occupations. This is partly due to the era of industrialisation and technology, where hard work and innovation were normal.   From the Elements of Numbers (EON) aspects, we could interpret the tendency signs from the 20th century vibes, where the year starts with “19xx.” We could interpret the 1-9 as [I – Success] which means “I’ve been there, done that, and know how much it would take me to become successful, and bring daily food to the table.” As these people grew up to become parents, they formed perceived beliefs, and wanted the best for their children. So the 1-9 [I – Success] has changed to “I know what’s good for you. I want you to listen to me, obey my instructions; study hard and work in the occupation that I know is good for you, so that you can become more successful than me.” In many cases, the preferred occupations were Lawyers, Doctors, and Engineers.

People born in the period known as Millennials (1981-96) and Generation Z (1997-2012) have different attitudes because of social, economic, political and environmental changes. From the EON aspect, the transition from the 20th century to the 21st century created vibrations that might affect them – from 19xx to 20xx. The 2-0, or 2 is interpreted like social interaction, communication, collaboration, teamwork, respect, etc. That was a reason why we see Internet connectivity becoming the new normal in our daily lives, with the mass influx of social media awareness, social rights, gay and LGBT awareness, etc., from around the year 2000 onwards. They no longer embrace their parents’ disciplinary style and career aspirations; they will decide what is best for them. If the job is not right for them, they will move on. Job loyalty is missing from their career dictionary.

Now, let’s get back to the Elements of Numbers (EON) profiling, and not debate too much on whether children should follow their parents’ instruction on preferred job titles, or not. Instead, let’s take a look at David’s chart and identify the tendency signs that influence his behaviours and, possibly, his reactions to his parents.

The left screenshot was taken from a pre-released FEON+ PRO software, on the Samsung Galaxy A52 smartphone. The software is currently available to my FEN (Five Elements Numerology) students.

On Page 41 of my EON book, “Elements of Numbers: Fast and Easy Character Profiling,” I’ve described the location of a person’s Birth Chart, that denotes the “Internal and External Influences” and the “Father and Mother’s sectors.” Get a copy of my EON book – click here to buy – if you haven’t already purchased or read it; an affordable, value-added book read by tens of thousands of people globally, with positive feelings after knowing themselves and others better.

In my reply to Natalie, I mentioned about the need for her and her husband to put less stress and pressure on David, and to reduce the temptation of using monetary rewards as a “carrot and stick” way to encourage their son to study. From EON aspect, the signs are there. I wasn’t surprised by Natalie’s reply, “Basically, he put pressure on himself. For us as parents, we are happy as long as he passes.” I remembered having two FEN students (they’re married couples) attending my class. During the real-time case study session, they brought up the subject of their son being rebellious, don’t listen to them, and so on. I then shared in class my observations and explained why, interactively pointing to the numbers present on the chart. They were, in the beginning, in denial states, but changed after I explained how (correlation of numbers and elements) they, as parents, could have influenced their son’s behaviour. And by consequence, his rebellious responses to them.

I liked doing live case analyses, mostly because of my research experience and my 5W1H (What, Where, Who, When, Why, How) growing mindset, to identify and share relevant and logical profiling techniques. Although the students appreciated an experiential learning session, I benefited greatly from their interactions and comments on my observations. The phase, “to teach is to learn twice” has always worked for me. I learned from their different insights too.

From the Elements of Numbers (EON) perspective, David has both smart genes present in his chart – the book-smart and street-smart genes. The tendency signs suggest that David can study well; he is academically inclined and also resourceful. And perhaps, a “perfectionist” and a “selective listener” too. Oh… possibly someone who strives for quick success too. Now, if his study results are not as good as they are, there is always a contributing factor – communication between David and his parents. The tendency signs on his chart, suggest Natalie might be creating an unnecessary stumbling block on David, possibly controlling his actions. From a Transactional Analysis (TA) perspective, it’s like a “critical parent” ego state when she’s communicating with her child. And how would David react? He could be obedient, and imposes undue stress upon himself. Alternatively, he could retaliate into a “rebellious child” ego state, doing the opposite of what Natalie insisted. In TA, such communication is seen as a “critical parent – rebellious child” ego states, where communication is hard to accept by both sides, amicably. What Natalie needs to do is to communicate with David on an “adult to adult” ego state – give him the space and respect needed, and the choices to make his own decisions. And not to pick an option just to make his parents happy.

The fact that Natalie is inquiring about the occupation is a telltale sign of “controlling” than “concerned” behaviour. Perhaps, Natalie might be oblivious to her behaviours toward David. Parents should not decide what they want their teenagers to do. They should not apply what they consider to be good for their children. Instead, they should encourage their children to think and study smartly, and to explore learning by understanding the concepts, not through presumptive listening. And let their children study in their own ways, multitasking or not, and decide who they want to be when they grow up as adults.

It is up to Natalie and her husband to decide their parenting style on David. It is not too late to adopt a different kind of family upbringing – one that encourages their children to decide their personal future, or one, which restricts the future of their children. They could let David decide on his own future, enjoying his work and passion; or stick to the disciplinary family rules, to work in a job his parents are proud of, but he hated it.

Regards, Ron WZ Sun